It's normal to feel angry when you are divorcing. But, its important to deal with it in a constructive way. Having been through a divorce myself I know how difficult getting past emotional issues can be. Many people make things worse by shouting obscenities, and harming the soon to be ex. By behaving badly, you are making your case worse and can have serious consequences like losing custody of a child.First, be kind to yourself. Indulge in some positive self talk and be your own best friend. It sounds corny but it works. Go to the gym or participate in a physical activity like running, speed walking. It works off the stress. I found yoga to be very helpful and relaxing. Eat healthy, take vitamins and get enough sleep. Tap into your spiritual core. Call friends and vent if you must. Just don't call on 1 friend over and over as they can get impatient with hearing the same things over and over. Watch funny shows/movies. Read positive books like Chicken Soup for the Soul or anything inspiring.It's important to exercise self control even when your ex is provoking you. Try your best to stay calm. It may help to keep notes of the points you want to cover when you are meeting to discuss issues. Many people turn to alcohol and drugs as a crutch to get them through the tough times. Sadly, it only makes you feel bad and can cause you to do things you will regret later. Try your best to moderate your drinking because your ex will try to make you look bad with his/her attorney. That is why exercising is so good. It reduces your stress and other toxic emotions. Another helpful activity is to keep a journal of your feelings. It helps to express and validate what your going through. Also, talking things out with others like in a support group is very good especially for those that don't like to write. Another option is to see a good therapist.You will have to deal with your ex and its best to plan for these visits. Write out the key points that need to be resolved. Stay on point and remain calm even if they fly off the handle. If necessary, consider using a Divorce Mediator. Keep strong, keep the faith, and know that you will survive. Love yourself.
